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Guava ([personal profile] g_uava) wrote in [community profile] paradisediner2025-09-02 06:28 pm
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Most romantic K-pop song

What do you think is the most romantic K-pop song?

My pick is Sechskies's "Couple" with AB6IX's "Heaven" being a close second.
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paradisedinermod ([personal profile] paradisedinermod) wrote in [community profile] paradisediner2025-09-01 07:50 pm

Monthly general chat - September 2025

General chat is for anything you want to talk about, k-pop related or not. These will go up at the beginning of every month, so feel free to check back in or comment at any point throughout the month. The post is stickied to the top of the comm along with the admin post.

Optional discussion question: what would be your representative animal emoji, if you were an idol?
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paradisedinermod ([personal profile] paradisedinermod) wrote in [community profile] paradisediner2025-09-01 07:49 pm
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New Music Monday - 1 September 2025

The regular weekly post for us to talk about any and all of our thoughts about the week's new releases.

Monsta X - N The Front
Zerobaseone - Iconik
Treasure - Paradise
NCT Wish - Color
Jun K - R&B Me (feat. Changbin (Stray Kids))
Avocado (feat. Gliico) (pre-release)
Illit - Toki Yo Tomare (Japan)
KickFlip - Band-Aid (pre-release)
Hyolyn - Shotty
hanhee - So Blue
Kang Daniel - No Day
X:IN - RRRUN
Aespa - Rich Man
Day6 - Inside Out

New MVs are also added to an ongoing youtube playlist.

Last week's MVs: 25 August

Feel free to add new comments in the replies for songs/MVs we missed.

[ Rec Something Wednesday | WIP Wednesday | Monthly General Chat | Comment Fest ]
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Mark Smith ([staff profile] mark) wrote in [site community profile] dw_maintenance2025-08-31 07:37 pm

Code deploy happening shortly

Per the [site community profile] dw_news post regarding the MS/TN blocks, we are doing a small code push shortly in order to get the code live. As per usual, please let us know if you see anything wonky.

There is some code cleanup we've been doing that is going out with this push but I don't think there is any new/reworked functionality, so it should be pretty invisible if all goes well.

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poppyseedheart ([personal profile] poppyseedheart) wrote2025-08-31 05:05 pm
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"i keep on telling you lies / count down to the day they may come true": adhd, meds, and honesty

Recently [personal profile] hwarium  posted a wonderful thoughtful journal entry on plagiarism and the practice of writing (which I highly recommend you read!), and in the comments I was musing a bit on how life has been since I got medicated for adhd. the connection there was the discussion of work ethic — notably, doing hard things for the sake of doing them — and the ways meds have removed barriers for me. This is going to a post expanding on that, but also talking about meds in general, and, per the title, thinking about how medication and therapy and diagnosis have made me a significantly more honest and forthright person in the last few years.

let's get into it babesSome background: I started suspecting I had adhd maybe 4 years ago, which was also when I started giving adhd evaluations as part of my job. I'd had vague thoughts before that but kept landing in the "no I'd know if I had adhd" camp instead of pursuing it further. Only when I realized some people actually don't have all of these symptoms did I recognize that I did. Even then, though, I remained under-educated, assuming that my only medication option was stimulants. My body can't really tolerate caffeine, so I did not want to know what adderal would do to it, and I didn't talk to a doctor about it until much later. A bunch of things happened in my life: career progression, finishing grad school, getting into a relationship, and finally moving in with my partner, which triggered my "I need to deal with this so my girlfriend doesn't kill me for leaving things all over the place for all of eternity" instincts. Lo and behold, there are multiple non-stimulant options, and my body tolerates one of them quite well. Wahoo.

Being medicated has meant I can look at a glass in the sink and wash it without thinking all that hard about it. I can sit down to work for an hour and get an hour's worth of work done. I'm not crying for an hour before I throw my overdue laundry in the washer. I only walk out the door without my keys a couple times a month. As gf likes to put it, "now you're just making the same mistakes as anyone else, because you're human."

There's an odd kind of grief that has come with things getting easier. Which is not to say that I miss literally anything about my unmedicated experience. What I'm trying to get at is that maybe it didn't have to be so hard for multiple decades. Maybe I didn't need to teach myself this awful cloying shame. And if none of it was necessary, then I have to spend the time to make meaning out of it beyond "I was doing my best" — or, at least, get to a place where that feels like it counts for anything.

My entire life was the friction of a broken executive dysfunction machine followed by periods of frictionlessly obsessing about all of the wrong things. This is where I found myself intersecting with and diverting from hwa's original post; I can relate to the idea that there's dignity in embracing the boring/mundane/difficult/annoying steps of daily living, and also I'd been using my struggles at those very things against myself like a weapon for years, convincing myself that my challenges were a result of some inherent brokenness or laziness. I've learned that this experience of internalized ableism is so common as to be cliche, but it's been my reality all the same.

And I've been thinking lately about the fuzzy line between accommodating my brain and leaning into the culture of instant gratification and prioritization of comfort that leads people to ask ChatGPT for a template to use to text their friends instead of coming up with the words themselves. How easy do I get to have it? How easy do I want to have it? But how hard does it have to be before I'm satisfied I've atoned for the privileges that allow me the option of those comforts in the first place?

One way I used to "manage" my adhd was by circumventing its consequences with compulsive fabrications. It would look something like.... Procrastinate on 10-page paper > feel immense guilt and shame for procrastinating > hyperfocus on fandom things instead of writing paper > panic as deadline approaches > hyperfocus more while having an anxiety attack in the background > try to start, cry > invent a stomach flu/family emergency/broken computer/etc and get an extension > write the whole thing through tears in a self-hating 24-hour haze > bon appetit. I articulated myself well enough in class most days that some teachers or professors, assuming I was just as on top of assignments and homework as I was the class discussions, though I had already turned in something I was trying to figure out a way to get out of doing, and gave me a high mark after assuming the missing document was their own error and not mine.

(This wasn't just a merit thing. I was a a young white girl with a sweet face who was quick to tears, and that allowed me to get away with all of it.)

It's hard to explain to people who only met me in the last few years just how good I was at this. I lied to teachers, coaches, administrators, my parents, friends, lab partners, etc. My life for a long time felt like a precarious house of cards, lies stacked on lies and swaying in the wind. I hated the few people who saw through me — couldn't they see that if I felt like I had any other option, I'd take it?

Related to all of this, I had incredible practice hiding things because of my anorexia, which gave me the obsessive edge I needed to make sure no one truly saw everything I was experiencing or feeling, ever. A perfect storm!

As it turns out, not only did meds help me get things done, they also helped me be more honest. I've been in a sort of remission from all of this fibbing for years, but a lot of those moments of honesty felt like leading myself to the gallows. I assumed I didn't really have the emotional dysregulation symptoms of adhd until I took medication and realized oh, wow, if someone is mad at me I don't actually have to go die about it.

Don't get me wrong, I still find this incredibly difficult, and that's not just adhd, but I've gotten so much better at owning my reality, my mistakes, my errors in judgment, my difficulties. Lying is less impulsive. Honesty is easier. I've typed and deleted three iterations of a sentence here about how ironic it is that it was only when I got better at this that some strangers decided I was a liar and a terrible person, but I think the sentence wasn't working because it isn't actually ironic at all. The scary thing about sitting in the truth that you are a small imperfect person who can only ever try their best is that when people hate you for it, there's no gotcha to hide behind. I am who I am. I know myself and my character, and that's all I can speak to if I don't want to return to my house of cards.

And I don't. I'm less ~interesting~ online than I have been since I was 15 years old, and one theory is that I just don't have anything to prove anymore. Another equally if not more valid theory is that a bunch of structures I relied on for my fandoming fell apart and I haven't bothered fully reconstructing them. Also, I'm not using the internet to avoid my responsibilities as much. And okay, one more for the road: now that I live with my partner I can just whisper my weird thoughts to her in bed instead of posting them, and even if they're very very weird she still kisses me before we fall asleep.

Like I said, I wouldn't go back. It's a new normal, and I've only been on a truly effective dose of meds for a handful of months, but I'm getting to know this new version of myself. It's really strange to trust that I don't have to "fix" myself anymore. I'm not pressing my back against the door to a room of lies and guilt that keeps threatening to burst open and expose me as a fraud. I can exist as I am, and that's pretty good.

Still don't know how or whether offloading grocery shopping onto my partner or delivery services because I hate it factors into that self-concept, but maybe I don't have to cast any judgment quite yet. Maybe it's okay, for now, to feel into it and see what's true for me. And then, if I'm very brave, I can act on that truth in whatever way feels authentic.

How embarrassing, to admit that honesty is still scary for me. And how freeing, to let myself say it at all.


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Denise ([staff profile] denise) wrote in [site community profile] dw_news2025-08-31 12:28 pm

Mississippi site block, plus a small restriction on Tennessee new accounts

A reminder to everyone that starting tomorrow, we are being forced to block access to any IP address that geolocates to the state of Mississippi for legal reasons while we and Netchoice continue fighting the law in court. People whose IP addresses geolocate to Mississippi will only be able to access a page that explains the issue and lets them know that we'll be back to offer them service as soon as the legal risk to us is less existential.

The block page will include the apology but I'll repeat it here: we don't do geolocation ourselves, so we're limited to the geolocation ability of our network provider. Our anti-spam geolocation blocks have shown us that their geolocation database has a number of mistakes in it. If one of your friends who doesn't live in Mississippi gets the block message, there is nothing we can do on our end to adjust the block, because we don't control it. The only way to fix a mistaken block is to change your IP address to one that doesn't register as being in Mississippi, either by disconnecting your internet connection and reconnecting it (if you don't have a static IP address) or using a VPN.

In related news, the judge in our challenge to Tennessee's social media age verification, parental consent, and parental surveillance law (which we are also part of the fight against!) ruled last month that we had not met the threshold for a temporary injunction preventing the state from enforcing the law while the court case proceeds.

The Tennesee law is less onerous than the Mississippi law and the fines for violating it are slightly less ruinous (slightly), but it's still a risk to us. While the fight goes on, we've decided to prevent any new account signups from anyone under 18 in Tennessee to protect ourselves against risk. We do not need to block access from the whole state: this only applies to new account creation.

Because we don't do any geolocation on our users and our network provider's geolocation services only apply to blocking access to the site entirely, the way we're implementing this is a new mandatory question on the account creation form asking if you live in Tennessee. If you do, you'll be unable to register an account if you're under 18, not just the under 13 restriction mandated by COPPA. Like the restrictions on the state of Mississippi, we absolutely hate having to do this, we're sorry, and we hope we'll be able to undo it as soon as possible.

Finally, I'd like to thank every one of you who's commented with a message of support for this fight or who's bought paid time to help keep us running. The fact we're entirely user-supported and you all genuinely understand why this fight is so important for everyone is a huge part of why we can continue to do this work. I've also sent a lot of your comments to the lawyers who are fighting the actual battles in court, and they find your wholehearted support just as encouraging and motivating as I do. Thank you all once again for being the best users any social media site could ever hope for. You make me proud and even more determined to yell at state attorneys general on your behalf.

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hwa ([personal profile] hwarium) wrote2025-08-30 01:24 am
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on being plagirised

I had two of my fics plagiarised last year, which I found out through a kind reader who DM’d me. Reading the stories, it was clear that they had re-written my fic scene for scene. In the comments, I can see them claim credit for the idea and the story. I submitted the report to ao3 in November 2024 with this gdoc side-by-side, and ao3 got back to me this month saying that there was nothing they can do because text was not copied. It appears that the current AO3 policy allows fanfiction to be re-written and paraphrased, and that counts as “transformative” (try repeating this to any university marker).

...

Since AO3 wouldn't take the fics down, I wanted to comment on the plagirised fics and ask for my work to credited.

Only to realise I have been blocked.

...

A moment of silence please while we all think up nasty adjectives. Thank you, I’m obliged by your sympathy, thank you deeply.

If you’re reading this, it’s very likely that you’re also a writer and a creator. I’m very lucky to be friends with many of you, and I know you can imagine how I am feeling. I'm not going to air that laundry, but I want to talk about my philosophy on the integrity of the process. This is not my public stance on plagiarism or AI, or any kind of moral, political, or value judgment what what people can or can't, should or should not do. This is a personal reflection on how I want to live this life.

I noticed that one of the plagiarised fics was marked as incomplete. It's because my original fic was marked as the first of a series and I just never wrote more of it. I had the thought, if I ever continued this story, will they immediately plagiarise it too?

It scared me. But as with most heavy emotions, I thought it through. I thought about the logical extremes. I thought about my reaction, because my reaction is what matters, because that is how I will live this life.

I ran this thought experiment:

If every work that I write from now on, will be immediately stolen and claimed by someone else as theirs, will I continue writing?

And my answer is, I must.

It's terrifying, to know you have been exploited for cheap clout, to know that it may happen again, and with the rise of AI in every-day hands, to know it may happen more often.

But I don't want to stop writing because of a possible negative outcome, no matter how likely it may be. I don't write for the comments or the kudos, no matter how much dopamine that exposure creates.

I write because of the process. That process where I go through my own memories of this life, my unique feelings on a particular story I read, my reaction to a piece of news that touched or broke me. It’s the journey of reflection where I wring myself dry while being both the straining muscle and the wet towel. I alone know the five discarded sentences that lived before the one that survived on the page. The parallel worlds that the characters walked and the infinite forks in their forest is something only I can see.

The act of writing is an act of meditation with the soul. I alone, will reap the true value of the story, because I have sat down with my mind and my memories and worked for it. I have the power to turn a series of facts into a story, and then transform that story, into a narrative. A person who steals a story does not understand how or why it works. In the plagiarised work, that user paraphrases sentences and swaps words for their synonyms, but in doing so destroys the rhythm of the phrase that was designed to ebb with the emotions of the characters. One word swapped for another loses the precious intangible connotations that aligned with the atmosphere of a moment, chosen for a sound that must be whispered rather than talked.

On the level of the narrative, I wonder if they understood how each character embodied the faces of predestination and free will. How their choices and dialogue piece together a portrait of contrasts, of cause-and-effort, of callbacks to motifs and theses. When they rewrote each interaction, did they think about how it served the theme?

Understanding how a sentence becomes a brick in the cornerstone in the house of a story, is a skill that requires a lifetime to learn. And then learning to build that house is an entirely different mountain a writer can only learn by climbing. To write is to climb up that mountain.

Someone who steals a story, a piece of art, or even just a turn of phrase, will never improve as a thinker, and will only cripple themselves because they are unwilling to even try. Eventually, they cannot think at all.

In ten years we will both read the same words, but the story in my mind will be far richer than anything they can imagine because they have not learnt to think. Not just for the plagiarised story, but for any story. When I discuss a common novel between friends, we each have different opinions because of our different lives and reading diets. A story is never quite the words on the page, each reader brings their soul to meet the author halfway, and the union births a new story, existing only in the mind of the reader. Learning to think as a writer has transformed the way I read, and this is but one reason I must keep writing.

But even if my story was stolen and improved. Even if the stories I want to write have already been written and nothing that I can even try to do will ever be original.

And even if there was a parallel world where a better version of myself exists, a healthier hwa, a better (and faster) writer, a wider reader, a kinder daughter, more successful in all the ways of the world and of the heart, even if that hwa exists, will I continue writing?

Should I continue living?

And my answer is, I must.

Because it's not about the outcome. For me, it's about living a good life that I look back and think, I made the most of it. To look at my hands and experience the pride that comes with knowing the hours and days that I have worked.

It’s not just about putting a story out into the world to be read. If I had a clone who could clean my house and reply my emails and listen to my mum yap for 2 hours every Sunday, I would not use the clone. Why watch a volleyball match, instead of googling the score? Why climb Kilimanjaro, if you can find a picture of the summit? Why read when one can ask ChatGPT to summarise 100 books?

A person who relies on the effort of others to simplify their life, does not end up living at all.

This is my personal philosophy. When I revere the process, my soul is nourished and my experience of the world deepens. Even if there a shortcut that will take me to the same outcome, cherishing the slow route can grow me in a way I might not fully apprehend for decades. This is not just about writing, or the modern anxieties around AI, late-stage capitalism and the dopamine apocalypse. For me, it extends to small choices about cooking a meal or buying a hard copy of a book that I’ve already read electronically. I reflect on my own choices when I observe friends hiring house cleaners, ask ChatGPT to write a birthday message or scroll Tik Tok while walking between destinations. The easiest way to reach a destination is to catch a taxi, but if I use public transport, I can enjoy the architecture of the new station, notice the new bakery at the entrance, and learn about the new exhibition at the art gallery. If I cycle, I’ll see the seasons change in the colour of the trees, and maybe I’ll stop at a cafe on a whim and chat to another customer about her perfume.

Life is hard and sometimes we must all make choices for convenience, but I want to be aware of what I am losing by choosing the easy path. Sometimes life is thankless and grim and your hard work gets exploited, but even in times like this I reflect about the choices I’ve made, the memories of a quiet evening, writing at 4am in Berlin in the winter of 2020, and I can feel tenderly proud of that past labour, which no one can ever take away from me.


Note 1: thank you to jess who reached out after ao3's determination and to all moots voiced their support. This started in jess' DMs about my philosophy about the integrity of the process, and got migrated to the notes app.

Note 2: I didn't lock my fics after ao3 got scraped in April 2025 to train generative AI. There's a potluck of reasons, partly because I've already had my work plagirised in 2024 and had the chance to reflect philosophically on why I write. I also read a lot of sci fi and I've reflected on ideas of this kind after reading Peter F Hamilton's A Second Chance at Eden — perhaps to be scraped is a form of immortality, there's a romantic victory in minutely influencing the order of words in the distant future, to be another data point in favour of the em dash. Again, personal philosophy is separate to my opinion about the morality of AI, and I've always been a little nihilistic. I live knowing that I can lose everything I have and I am prepared to be forgotten. I've thought about a post-human world, the heat death of the universe, and I know that the meaning of my life is mine to decide. If the future is an inevitable wave, I am choosing how I want to swim even if I drown.

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Denise ([staff profile] denise) wrote in [site community profile] dw_news2025-08-26 12:24 am

Mississippi legal challenge: beginning 1 September, we will need to geoblock Mississippi IPs

I'll start with the tl;dr summary to make sure everyone sees it and then explain further: As of September 1, we will temporarily be forced to block access to Dreamwidth from all IP addresses that geolocate to Mississippi for legal reasons. This block will need to continue until we either win the legal case entirely, or the district court issues another injunction preventing Mississippi from enforcing their social media age verification and parental consent law against us.

Mississippi residents, we are so, so sorry. We really don't want to do this, but the legal fight we and Netchoice have been fighting for you had a temporary setback last week. We genuinely and honestly believe that we're going to win it in the end, but the Fifth Circuit appellate court said that the district judge was wrong to issue the preliminary injunction back in June that would have maintained the status quo and prevented the state from enforcing the law requiring any social media website (which is very broadly defined, and which we definitely qualify as) to deanonymize and age-verify all users and obtain parental permission from the parent of anyone under 18 who wants to open an account.

Netchoice took that appellate ruling up to the Supreme Court, who declined to overrule the Fifth Circuit with no explanation -- except for Justice Kavanaugh agreeing that we are likely to win the fight in the end, but saying that it's no big deal to let the state enforce the law in the meantime.

Needless to say, it's a big deal to let the state enforce the law in the meantime. The Mississippi law is a breathtaking state overreach: it forces us to verify the identity and age of every person who accesses Dreamwidth from the state of Mississippi and determine who's under the age of 18 by collecting identity documents, to save that highly personal and sensitive information, and then to obtain a permission slip from those users' parents to allow them to finish creating an account. It also forces us to change our moderation policies and stop anyone under 18 from accessing a wide variety of legal and beneficial speech because the state of Mississippi doesn't like it -- which, given the way Dreamwidth works, would mean blocking people from talking about those things at all. (And if you think you know exactly what kind of content the state of Mississippi doesn't like, you're absolutely right.)

Needless to say, we don't want to do that, either. Even if we wanted to, though, we can't: the resources it would take for us to build the systems that would let us do it are well beyond our capacity. You can read the sworn declaration I provided to the court for some examples of how unworkable these requirements are in practice. (That isn't even everything! The lawyers gave me a page limit!)

Unfortunately, the penalties for failing to comply with the Mississippi law are incredibly steep: fines of $10,000 per user from Mississippi who we don't have identity documents verifying age for, per incident -- which means every time someone from Mississippi loaded Dreamwidth, we'd potentially owe Mississippi $10,000. Even a single $10,000 fine would be rough for us, but the per-user, per-incident nature of the actual fine structure is an existential threat. And because we're part of the organization suing Mississippi over it, and were explicitly named in the now-overturned preliminary injunction, we think the risk of the state deciding to engage in retaliatory prosecution while the full legal challenge continues to work its way through the courts is a lot higher than we're comfortable with. Mississippi has been itching to issue those fines for a while, and while normally we wouldn't worry much because we're a small and obscure site, the fact that we've been yelling at them in court about the law being unconstitutional means the chance of them lumping us in with the big social media giants and trying to fine us is just too high for us to want to risk it. (The excellent lawyers we've been working with are Netchoice's lawyers, not ours!)

All of this means we've made the extremely painful decision that our only possible option for the time being is to block Mississippi IP addresses from accessing Dreamwidth, until we win the case. (And I repeat: I am absolutely incredibly confident we'll win the case. And apparently Justice Kavanaugh agrees!) I repeat: I am so, so sorry. This is the last thing we wanted to do, and I've been fighting my ass off for the last three years to prevent it. But, as everyone who follows the legal system knows, the Fifth Circuit is gonna do what it's gonna do, whether or not what they want to do has any relationship to the actual law.

We don't collect geolocation information ourselves, and we have no idea which of our users are residents of Mississippi. (We also don't want to know that, unless you choose to tell us.) Because of that, and because access to highly accurate geolocation databases is extremely expensive, our only option is to use our network provider's geolocation-based blocking to prevent connections from IP addresses they identify as being from Mississippi from even reaching Dreamwidth in the first place. I have no idea how accurate their geolocation is, and it's possible that some people not in Mississippi might also be affected by this block. (The inaccuracy of geolocation is only, like, the 27th most important reason on the list of "why this law is practically impossible for any site to comply with, much less a tiny site like us".)

If your IP address is identified as coming from Mississippi, beginning on September 1, you'll see a shorter, simpler version of this message and be unable to proceed to the site itself. If you would otherwise be affected, but you have a VPN or proxy service that masks your IP address and changes where your connection appears to come from, you won't get the block message, and you can keep using Dreamwidth the way you usually would.

On a completely unrelated note while I have you all here, have I mentioned lately that I really like ProtonVPN's service, privacy practices, and pricing? They also have a free tier available that, although limited to one device, has no ads or data caps and doesn't log your activity, unlike most of the free VPN services out there. VPNs are an excellent privacy and security tool that every user of the internet should be familiar with! We aren't affiliated with Proton and we don't get any kickbacks if you sign up with them, but I'm a satisfied customer and I wanted to take this chance to let you know that.

Again, we're so incredibly sorry to have to make this announcement, and I personally promise you that I will continue to fight this law, and all of the others like it that various states are passing, with every inch of the New Jersey-bred stubborn fightiness you've come to know and love over the last 16 years. The instant we think it's less legally risky for us to allow connections from Mississippi IP addresses, we'll undo the block and let you know.

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paradisedinermod ([personal profile] paradisedinermod) wrote in [community profile] paradisediner2025-08-25 08:34 pm
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New Music Monday - 25 August 2025

The regular weekly post for us to talk about any and all of our thoughts about the week's new releases.

IVE - XOXZ
AB6IX - Stupid
Chanyeol - Happy Accident (feat. Sole) / Upside Down
In A Minute - How We Do
zzone - Devil's Jam
The Vignettes - Little Letter
Sunmi - Blue!
Juniel - Comet
Kaya - Lv UP
CMDM - Step With Me
Twice (Japan)
LUN8 - Motley Crew (Japan)
H1-Key (Japan)
KJRGL - TipToe (Japan)
Soojin - Baditude
Neon
Lim Youngwoong - Eternal Moment
Girlset - Commas
Purple Kiss - Doremi (English version) / Want U Back

New MVs are also added to an ongoing youtube playlist.

Last week's MVs: 18 August

Feel free to add new comments in the replies for songs/MVs we missed.

[ Rec Something Wednesday | WIP Wednesday | Monthly General Chat | Comment Fest ]
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popliar ([personal profile] popliar) wrote in [community profile] paradisediner2025-08-21 10:08 pm
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MV shooting locations

I had a fun time clicking around both these location hire sites, recognising many famous MV locations, including Paradise Diner:

Columbus Studio

Studio Ametage

Shout out to That Circular Building, with her own kprofiles page lol
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paradisedinermod ([personal profile] paradisedinermod) wrote in [community profile] paradisediner2025-08-21 10:07 pm
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RESULTS: Confusing ass group part 3

Thank you to those who voted - the results are out and we're unhappy and fruit-deficient, but still keeping up that cardio!

NCT Dream - we hate fruits 🍌🚫

Mamamoo - don't be happy ☹️

TXT - RUN AWAY 🏃‍♂️🏃‍♂️🏃‍♂️
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wren ([personal profile] infrequencies) wrote2025-08-21 01:45 am
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so you want to run a fic fest!

I started co-running fic fests in 2018 with Your Hope Fest, and have since co-ran a round of SeokSoon Fireball Fest, four rounds of Emo Fic Fest (originally Emo BTS Fest), one round of 98z Rare Pair Fest, and various other fandom events that you may or may not know about—to varying degrees of success. 

I've been on the other side of fests as a writer as well; some good, some bad, some downright confusing. From all of these experiences, I have been able to put together a loose how-to on running a fic fest, particularly one for K-RPF. I've been less successful out of this space, but admittedly, I have less interest in writing outside of this space at this time. 

I've received feedback that joining fests that are not run by me are noticeably not run like the Marines, which is :') a very nice thing to hear! I put a lot of thought and effort into each portion of running an event for fandom, and I've asked a lot of questions to friends who have way more experience doing this than me. I have taken a big step back from big fandom-wide fests due to lack of time and energy for it, but I'm still participating in fandom and I wanted to share the things I know to help make fandom a better place.  

 

1. Idea Phase

Let's say that you and a group of people come together and learn that you have a specific overlap, like, enjoying the same ship, or wanting more of a certain member written. Or you like a trope and want more of it. You love an artist and want to launch a jukebox fest. Where do you begin? 

Well, first of all: make sure the fest doesn't already exist. And if it does, reach out to those mods. Even if the fest is inactive.

Sure, you don't have to, but it's just good form. And it's polite. Not to discourage, but to see if you could probably a) get them to change ownership of the Twitter acount b) offer assistance or c) get that promo of an existing audience. Some other ideas: reach out to member-based fests if you're a ship-based fest! Find the general fandom trope-based fests! Look out for Rare Pair Fests! The K-Pop Discord server Write? or Write promos fests on their Twitter account, as does kfic_challenge! Promo4Promo makes the world go round.

If that isn't a roadblock standing in your way, go ahead and put your think tank together. Whether that ends up being your mod team is up to you, but you need 1. some level of graphic design experience or know how to use Canva and 2. some social media savvy.

The basics of creating a fest mean that you need to have the following things before launch:  
      • fest name
      • fest timeline
      • dedicated fest email 
      • dedicated fest social media accounts
      • fest rules
      • fest collection on AO3

Should I run an interest check? 

I personally feel that interest checks are stupid, especially if you have already committed to the idea of the fest. Interest checks should happen before the account is created, if at all, within your own circle. (This is where you hold your friends at knifepoint and threaten them to join or else.)

The only reason you should run an interest check is if you're between two options, like two timelines or two fest formats. If you're running a second round and need feedback.

Also: if you're asking if people are interested in an event you want to run... do you actually want to run it? 

How do I name this thing? 

It can be as simple as "[member name] Fest" or "[Trope] [Fandom] [Ship] Fest". Don't make it hard for people to find, and keep it short and sweet. Keep the word "fest" in the name or bio of the social media accounts for SEO reasons, and this is especially important if you're running a niche, music festival-themed fest that parodies branding of a well-known touring fest. 

Hey so. Graphic design is not my passion. 

That's okay! I'm also notably terrible at creating graphics! For Seoksoon Fireball Fest, I used a lot of templates to build out fest graphics. Canva is incredible, and will offer suggestions for fonts to pair up. The text will snap in place. A godsend. (I am not my wonderful talented friend ao3 cryptonomica, the brains behind the graphics for Emo Fic Fest.) 

Make sure that your graphics are at least readable. There have been many fests that I've been interested in, but their fest graphics were unreadable. Worst of all, there wasn't a Carrd or Google Doc with information easily accessible that I just gave up on it. Something that I've learned in working in marketing: don't make people work for the information they're seeking. Because they won't do the work. You gotta make it easy to get the conversion!

Sick. I've made the email, social media accounts, and I've got graphics. What else do I need?

That's cool! But before you start posting your graphics:

Something that has been raised to me in the past—and is an excellent point—is the lack of usage of the alt text feature on Twitter. I use that description field to put in the text on the graphics to the best of my ability. It is hugely disheartening to see fests not take advantage of the feature, when this is something that helps everyone. I'm not perfect about this, and neither will you be! But take the extra second to proofread and check your alt text. 

2. Get the Word OutNow that you've gotten an idea ready to be shared with the general public and reached out to other fest mods, you need to start creating rules.

My general rule of thumb is that by signing up for a fest, you agree to tag your fics to the best of your ability and/or warn for content. I operate on an honor system. I'm not your mama, so I'm not gonna go behind every single one of you to check, but I am gonna at least look at the tags of the fic and determine if there's any additional warnings needed. You can be as thorough or brief as you want, but if there's darker themes, hard kink, explicit content, and so on, be up front about it. 

There has been a lot of discourse regarding content allowed in fests, and I have run fests with a stance against rape, assault, bestiality, and incest. I've run fests with no restrictions, everything goes as long as you tag it. I'm not going to go back and forth on debating this, but do know that if you are opening yourself up to barring content in fests, you are holding yourself accountable to the fics that are entered in your fest. Know that if you create a word count minimum, or bar an age group from participating, you are tightening your pool of participants.

My preferred format is to write rules in FAQ/Q&A, because it gives you easy verbiage to refer back to when someone asks you a question. And if a new question comes up, then you can add it to the list.

For an example of fest rules, Emo Fest rules can be found here. If you use these as a reference point in your fic fest verbiage, please credit us!

Next should be a timeline.

Timelines are important because it tells your would-be writer pool how much time they would have to dilly-dally until the fic is due. As someone who loves to sign up for a fest, then completely forget about it until check-ins... You need to space check-ins so that the forgetting period doesn't happen. You should also add a buffer between the due date and posting. 

My rough estimate for the sweet spots for each period are as follows: 

Fest open: as immediate as possible. Easier done with jukebox fests, self-prompted fests, and anything that involves a lot less mod intervention. You want to keep the momentum going.

Prompting period: no more than 2-3 weeks. Maybe a month, but at some point, the number of prompts gets overwhelming to wrangle and/or look at. 

Claiming period: open either immediately after prompting closes, or the second mods clean up the archive. I typically prefer to run a "rolling claim period" aka claiming never closes.

Check-ins: dependent on how long the fest is, but approximately 1 month after claiming, then 3 week intervals until fest end.

At first check-in, also remind people that they're allowed to drop the fest whenever! Unless it's an exchange. Then you should be reminding them that they need to let you know sooner rather than later if they cannot complete their fic so you can find a pinch hitter. 

2.1 Checking In

I am a strong believer that all people who sign up for fests are responsible for their own fest participation and that I'm not going to chase you for a check-in. I also know and acknowledge that life happens. But communication is key to make literally anything work, and not communicating as a mod or a writer is a huge detriment to all people involved.

Make your check-ins as accessible as possible: tweets with direct links to the check-in form, emails with links, sending out reminder DMs to the handful of people whose emails got caught in the spam filters. You need to know if they're continuing on. Without you, there is no fest, but without them, there is also no fest. 

Posting: add in a one week buffer between fic due date and posting. This builds in time for any late fills, and gives mods a brain break. It also helps your graphics mod time to space out the work needed.

As a reader and writer, I love daily posting, but as a mod, I love spacing out the days. I love giving my writers space for their works to find an audience, and my readers time to get through their works. On the other end, I am rattling on my goddamn cage. (This is a fun time to do some sort of reader bingo if you're feeling fancy.) 

2.2 Posting

Build a buffer into your calendar.

Did you listen to me when I said that earlier in this post? Build a buffer into your calendar. "No, infrequency, this fest is gonna be different! We're gonna have all fics in on time." Build the buffer into your calendar. Have you ever had less than 25% of fics submitted on the day fics were due? I have. BUILD THE BUFFER INTO YOUR TIMELINE. THANK ME LATER.

Reveals: Space a few days after the final posting day. This can be a TBD date on your timeline because... the writer's muse is fickle and some people will want to try to use every second they can squeeze out of the timeline. Fair. But have a hard date set in mind and keep it in your back pocket. You should have this by fest end. 

Once all of that is said and done: do you have graphics for your pinned tweet?
3. Getting Organized
You want to make things as easy as possible for people, so putting all of your information in one place is best practice. This was true when I was creating resources for IRL events on social media, and it's true for fic fests. I want to go to the fest page, click on the Carrd link in bio or the pinned, and find exactly what I'm looking for. If I have to scroll through the broken bird app to find any information on your fest, then I'm clicking out of the tab.

Your pinned tweet should contain the following info: 
  • centralized information. (carrd/strawpage/google doc) It doesn't have to be pretty, but it does have to explain what it is in a digestible way
  • AO3 collection link. The AO3 collection link should have all of the information pertinent to the fest on the information page as well. More on this later. 
  • another link to rules, guidelines, etc. Rules should also be accessible on the Carrd and AO3 collection. For Emo Fic Fest, we used a Google Doc.
Doesn't that seem like overkill? 

No. Coming as someone who worked in live events, our canned response to questions was to direct people to our FAQ in conjunction with their answer. Point people to all of the information they're seeking out. You will sound like a broken record, but better people know where to look for their answers than having a confused would-be audience.

Immediately after the pinned tweet should be the timeline. The timeline information should be in the bio as well. So if the fest runs from June to October 2025, I would list out the dates for each step of the fest. 
K-Pop Emo Fic Fest '23 Timeline, 2/2Sign-Ups June 19-July 24First Check-In & Drop Form Opens August 14Second Check-In September 8Fics Due September 26Posting September 29Author Reveals TBD (Early October)

The idea is that you want to keep all of your information in one place, one thread, so you can easily go back to reference it. Under this, you can do rules, other important information on the fest, prompt archive, fic recs, whatever. The world is your oyster. 

Okay, I've launched! Now what? 

Make sure your AO3 collection page is up to date with all info. Include dates, links to the social media, email, and so on. At bare minimum, have this page link to where your rules and guidelines are. It's useful to have your information as visible as possible! It's important for a fic fest to have their contact information visible and present. And for Emo Fic Fest, we had it everywhere. 

Reach out to other fests in your fandom! You ran the recon like I said, right? Send a DM and say "hi! can you RT our timeline/pinned?" You want to reach out to as many people as possible. Follow other fic fests - it's a surefire signal that says, hey! Check us out! Get the news out that your fest is here and ready to go. And it's just fun to make friends!

If you are reading this and run a K-RPF fic fest, you are welcome to reach out to me at @infrequenced or on @emoficfest at any time. We have a 1k+ following reach—as does my fic account—and I would be happy to boost! 

In the meantime, you should be doing the boring administrative work that comes with running a fest. Get your spreadsheet looking right for tracking writers and prompts claimed. Workshop an easy template for your confirmation emails, and get ahead with writing out your check-in emails. All that jazz. 

Something fun that Emo Fic Fest adopted in Year Three was a confirmation graphic for writers to post on social media—which was another way to promote the fest, but in a fun interactive way! There are a lot of cool ways to use that audience you've captured to do some of the leg work for you, but it's just cool to share and be excited about a thing in fandom, you know? 

Help... I'm bad at writing emails.... 

An easy confirmation email template is: 

Hello! 

Thank you for signing up for [insert fest name here]. You have successfully claimed [prompt/song/whatever: whatever they claimed]. If this is correct, no need to reply. 

The first/second/last check-in will be on [DATE]. 

Thank you again, and happy writing! 

Feel free to amend this for check-ins as well!

4. The Lull


Don't let it fool you. The lull during the writing period is the calm before the storm.

As it gets closer to the due date for all fics, you need to start evaluating your timeline. Start pre-planning what your posting schedule looks like.

My go-to format for fic posting is: 

TITLE
SHIP
RATING | WC
TAGS

[link]

When people drop, create a separate drop list on your spreadsheet. This has made my life significantly easier, as someone who always manages to fuck up my spreadsheet while tracking writers with outstanding fics, and it will make your life easier, too. Also, if you created a buffer in your timeline, it gives you more time to get stuff together. 

Sometime in this lull, you should also post a guide on how to post your fics! AO3 collections are finnicky, so a video guide helps. See: my screen recording for Emo Fic Fest here.

5. The Storm 
Imagine this: 

Fics were due two days ago, and only 2 people have submitted fics. You have 10 people promising that they'll get their fics in by tomorrow evening, and 3 people just dropped.

Aren't you glad you added in those buffer days?

You added in those buffer dates, right?

You need to give those writers promising they'll be done a hard final date. It's not fair to the writers who submitted their works on time they have to wait longer for them, and it's not fair to you as a mod to have to wait on them. 

The alternative that I often offer to writers is that if they complete their fic down the line, they are welcome to DM or tag us in their promotion post, and we will RT the post to our audience as if it was part of the fest. 

Yes, this means you can't please everyone. Yes, this means you're the bad guy. But these things are set in place for a reason. 

When it comes down to posting, there are a couple things about AO3 that I didn't know until it was posting day and I was at my second job while my first fest was going down. You have to manually find those fics in the collection and release them to the wild. 

When you go to your AO3 collection, you will deselect "Unrevealed" to make the fic public and keep the fic anonymous. 



The beautiful thing is that once you're at the end of the fest, all fics can be de-anoned in one go. You can also reveal all fics in one go, but if you're staggering out the days, it makes sense to release them manually.
6. ...End?
Some last things, and you're free! 

Figure out a format that works for your closing graphic: your author reveals! Keep it simple as possible, but make it something that people can share with their TL.

If you do a author name graphic pre-fic reveals, it allows people to invite readers to guess who they've read. It can be fun as a reader to try to guess who wrote what!

Look. We know that engagement has largely fallen off in fandom, but it's still a fun thing to do. Plus, it's just nice to appreciate all of the people who took part.

 
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Then, you can go de-anon all of those fics! 



Once all fics have been de-anoned, you should post another set of graphics with all authors' names next to their fics, like so: 

forfeit the game - roxashighwindhow could you listen all night long? - sweetjeonssfeel the heat on me - auber_gine_dreamsoverdrive - skyswirlnever get too far (from me) - sunnydaze (geedeebaby)

You should also link directly to the AO3 collection in each tweet. Again, don't make people look for the information that you're giving them. You want to convert these tweets into click-throughs. Marketing babey.

 

This is just a general guideline of things that have worked for me in the past, and should not be taken as hard and fast rules. I'm just one person! And if you have suggestions of things that have worked in the past or need any clarification, please feel free to jump in. I can also be reached at my Alterspring.

Thank you for reading!

 

 

 


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